I AM A CERTIFIED LIFE COACH AND I KNOW A FEW THINGS ABOUT HAVING A BRAIN THAT DOESN’T ACT LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE’S.
I spent years of my life and multiple thousands of dollars trying to “fix” what was “wrong with me”, until I realised that there actually was NOTHING wrong with me. When I started working WITH my brain, everything else in my life just fell into place. Not only did I feel way less stress & anxiety, I also began purposefully creating results that I WANTED in my life. Now I’ve helped hundreds of other women do the same.
EP 317
Like no matter how many times you try, you can’t seem to make yourself do the things you say you want
to do?
If that’s you, this episode is going to change how you see yourself.
Because it’s not that you’re lazy. And it’s not that you lack discipline.
It’s that the fuel you’ve been using to motivate yourself is actually working against you—and no one has ever shown you what to use instead.
In this episode, I’m breaking down why accountability and motivation fail most people, what’s really
underneath the cycle of trying and quitting, and what it actually takes to build habits that stick long term.
In This Episode, I Cover:
Key Takeaway
You don’t have a motivation problem. You have a fuel problem.
Shame, guilt, and self-disgust can push you for a few days—but they will always break down. They are not a long-term solution.
What actually works is getting specific about why you want what you want, removing the barriers between you and the action, and learning to redirect yourself with kindness instead of force.
You don’t need to be harder on yourself. You need to be more honest—and more loving.
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How to Love Yourself No Matter What — Podcast Transcript
I have done so many episodes on parts of this, but today I wanna speak about accountability and motivation. And honestly, I wanna talk about how we use this against ourselves. It typically looks like this. An example would be you want to, say, start going to the gym at six AM before work, and this is a habit you haven’t established yet.
It’s not something you do. And so you set an alarm, and the next morning at six AM, you
