172. Why You Shouldn’t Do What You Think You’re Supposed To

Hey there, welcome to the podcast! Today, I’m diving into something that’s been on my mind a lot, and I bet you’ve thought about it too. You know that feeling when you’re absolutely convinced you should be doing something, but you just can’t seem to take that first step? It’s a struggle many of us face, and it’s even more pronounced for those of us who are neurodivergent. We’ve spent a long time trying to fit into a world that doesn’t always understand us.

 

So, we often turn to self-help books, right? I’ve read my fair share, and they’ve had their moments, but lately, I’ve noticed something. It’s not about needing more information; it’s about something deeper. We become information hoarders, thinking that the next book or course will finally reveal the magic formula to make us do what we want.

 

But let’s be real – it’s not that simple. I mean, I’ve struggled with completing things in my life, like not finishing university. Society makes us believe that not having that degree equals failure. And we do this in various aspects of our lives, constantly seeking that one thing that will make us feel confident and comfortable with change.

 

Now, here’s the thing: comfort in change is a bit of a unicorn. It’s elusive. But it doesn’t have to be painful either. There’s a middle ground. We often think something’s wrong with us when we get scared, shut down, or quit. I’ve been there myself, and I see it in my clients too.

 

We chase after someone who promises certainty, a step-by-step guide, a shiny object that tells us what to do. But life isn’t that predictable. There’s a unique level of risk in our pursuits, and it’s not the same as someone else’s journey.

 

The point is, you’re not alone in feeling like a quitter or that you’re just not getting it. I’ve been there, and I’m sure many of you have too. But here’s the kicker – it’s okay not to be good at everything. It’s not about shoulds; it’s about finding what truly works for you.

 

Think of life as a dance. You’re not on a fixed path; you’re dancing. It’s about learning what steps work best for you, just like in figure skating. Not everyone can do every move, but that doesn’t make you any less of a skater.

 

So, let’s ditch the “shoulds” and explore what really makes us tick. It’s a journey, not a destination. And I promise you, it’s liberating. Join me in a free workshop to dive deeper into this. You don’t need to conform to what society says you should do; you can create your unique path to confidence and fulfillment.

 

I hope this episode inspires you to rethink your approach and consider that maybe you shouldn’t always follow the traditional route. There’s an exciting, authentic journey waiting for you.

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