Reclaiming Your Wants: Breaking Free from Burnout & People-Pleasing

Episode Notes

Are you feeling stuck in a cycle of burnout, constantly giving and never taking time for yourself? In this episode, I dive into the concept of *wanting*—why so many of us, especially women, lose touch with our own desires and how to reclaim them.  

We’ve been taught that being the “good girl” means putting everyone else first, but at what cost? I explore the impact of this mindset, the necessity of rest, and how learning to prioritize yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential.  

I also share insights from my own life, from skating as an adult to teaching spin class, and what they reveal about growth, failure, and nervous system regulation. Plus, I give you a sneak peek into next week’s episode, where we’ll talk even more about breaking free from outdated expectations.  

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🔹 **(00:00) – Welcome & Life Updates**  

I’m getting ready for a trip to Puerto Rico for a business mastermind and reflecting on how exciting (and exhausting) travel can be.  

🔹 **(02:15) – Why So Many of Us Stop Wanting**  

As we move through life, we often stop prioritizing what *we* want. Instead, we live in a performative way, following the expectations placed upon us.  

🔹 **(05:30) – The Epidemic of Burnout & Over-Giving**  

Women are taught to give endlessly—our time, energy, and love. But where does that leave *us*? If you’re feeling exhausted, it’s time to take a step back and reassess.  

🔹 **(08:10) – The Role of Nervous System Regulation in Change**  

Figuring out what you want requires stepping outside of your comfort zone, which can be unsettling. That’s why nervous system regulation is *key* to making lasting shifts.  

🔹 **(11:20) – A Client’s Story: The Travel Trailer vs. The Boat**  

A powerful real-life example of how we unconsciously say no to ourselves in order to accommodate others—and how that can slowly erode our sense of self.  

🔹 **(14:35) – Why You Need Intentional Time for Yourself**  

You can’t figure out what you want by cramming self-care into the cracks of your day. Intentional time is essential to reconnecting with yourself.  

🔹 **(17:10) – The Finish Line Myth: You’re Already Enough**  

We often think we’ll be “enough” once we achieve certain milestones. But what if the real goal is realizing *you’re already enough* just as you are?  

🔹 **(19:45) – Sneak Peek: My Conversation with Maggie Reyes**  

Next week, I’ll be sharing a conversation with my former marriage coach, Maggie Reyes. She shares a game-changing mindset shift: treating yourself as if you were one of your kids—prioritizing *your* needs just as much as you prioritize theirs.  

🔹 **(21:00) – Final Thoughts & Next Steps**  

What would it take for you to prioritize yourself today? If you’re feeling stuck, coaching might be the next step. DM me on Instagram (@theamandahess) or book a free discovery call at [amandahess.ca](http://amandahess.ca).  

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